January 2: The gym is so crowded you need to stand in line for half an hour or more to use your cardio machine of choice, or heck, any cardio machine. January 5: You head to the grocery store and it is as if no fruits, vegetables, or protein supplements were ever stocked on their shelves. Fast forward to February 15: The gym has returned to the usual suspects and you can finally buy bananas again!
Due to new books and films like Boy Erased (written by Arkansas native Garrard Conley) and The Miseducation of Cameron Post, there has been a recent increase in the discussion around LGBTQ conversion therapy. Conversion therapy essentially tries to “de-gay” a person by changing their sexual orientation. In the past this has included “ex-gay” camps, electroconvulsive therapy, and administering shocks when aroused among other extreme measures. Today, most conversion therapy uses behavioral techniques much like cognitive behavioral therapy to attempt to change behavior or deny the expression of sexual feelings. In other words, it can look like regular therapy.
In my previous post on anger I talked about how anger is just one of many emotions, and that it is actually healthy to be able to express, process and reflect on all of your emotions, including anger. With that said, here are five tips to help you manage your anger in a healthier way.
1. Remind yourself that anger is normal and is usually alerting us to something that is off. We have a tendency to classify emotions as “good” and “bad” but all emotions are normal and healthy. After all, you cannot really control how you feel, right? You can, however, control how you want to respond to emotions. It may be more helpful to classify anger as an “unpleasant” emotion and when you feel anger you can decide how you want to respond to this feeling. Anger often tells us that something is not right. We may feel hurt or taken advantage of or perhaps an injustice has been done. Anger is a signal that something is not right. Listen to this and try to respond in a healthy manner.
Many people think that LGBTQ identities and religion don’t mix but this is very far from the truth! Sure, many dogmatic religions can cause significant trauma to LGBTQ individuals with non-welcoming beliefs. However, there are many safe spiritual spaces for LGBTQ people.
Okay, so now that I have your attention, I’d like to talk about relationships. Specifically, I’d like to speak to the mothers who are reading this, but these ideas apply to all the amazing fathers reading as well as anyone in a relationship regardless of if you have kids or not.
Hi! I'm Michelle Ainsworth a therapist here at Wellspring Renewal Center. I want to share with you some tips on how to improve your relationship with yourself. Whether it's self-sabotaging behaviors or self defeating cycles we might find ourselves in, SO many of us have been right there; including myself, at times in my life.
Everyone gets angry. Humans feel the full spectrum of emotions and anger is one part of this. Anger is a signal that something is not quite matching up to your expectations. It can also come from feeling threatened and feeling hurt. Men, or people identifying with a masculine identify, feel all emotions but often only feel comfortable expressing anger. This is for a variety of reasons. First, boys are often taught to “be tough” or “just deal with it” when they express emotion other than anger. This conditions them to associate any other emotion with weakness. Anger is also a “surface level emotion” meaning that anger is often expressed first when we feel other emotions like sadness. Men may not want to fully process the underlying emotions so anger is fueled and expressed. Our society in general associated emotionality with femininity and men can be afraid to appear “feminine” by discussing emotions.
I’d like to talk about transitions a little bit. Some major life transitions that readily come to mind for most adults might be: starting a new job, entering a new relationship, getting married/engaged, getting pregnant, becoming a parent, or moving to a new city, house, state, etc.
Hi everyone! I'm Michelle Ainsworth, therapist here at Wellspring Renewal Center. I really can't believe it’s already August and school is starting back. With school and our kids in mind, I thought I would spend a little time today talking about the mental health of our children. School can be a wonderful place for children to make friends, express themselves, expand their minds, etc… but all too often school can also be a source of anxiety and/or depression due to difficulties they may experience with academics or socially.