Hello my fellow moms! Tis the season. As if being the parent of a small child(ren) was not already trying enough on a daily basis, here come the holidays. Holidays mean out of town relatives who try your nerves, events to plan, gatherings to attend, gifts to buy, gifts to wrap, trips to pack and plan for, interruptions to baby’s sleep routine/nap routine/eating routine…just toss routine out the window. As the holiday gauntlet approaches, how are you keeping your sanity?
Okay, so now that I have your attention, I’d like to talk about relationships. Specifically, I’d like to speak to the mothers who are reading this, but these ideas apply to all the amazing fathers reading as well as anyone in a relationship regardless of if you have kids or not.
Everyone gets angry. Humans feel the full spectrum of emotions and anger is one part of this. Anger is a signal that something is not quite matching up to your expectations. It can also come from feeling threatened and feeling hurt. Men, or people identifying with a masculine identify, feel all emotions but often only feel comfortable expressing anger. This is for a variety of reasons. First, boys are often taught to “be tough” or “just deal with it” when they express emotion other than anger. This conditions them to associate any other emotion with weakness. Anger is also a “surface level emotion” meaning that anger is often expressed first when we feel other emotions like sadness. Men may not want to fully process the underlying emotions so anger is fueled and expressed. Our society in general associated emotionality with femininity and men can be afraid to appear “feminine” by discussing emotions.
I have a special place in my heart for moms. There are so many reasons for this. But chief among them is that I am a mom myself and I get what a hard job it is. We spend approximately 40 weeks (some more, some less) bonding with a tiny human as we nurture and grow literally together. We put our entire self into that process, then we give birth. But it definitely does not end there. Not on any level. Pregnancy comes with a myriad of emotions, hormones, and new experiences…no matter how many times you’ve done it. I’ll be the first to say, that being pregnant with my second baby was a different (even though you know SOME of what to expect the second time around) experience than with my first. Just like each person is different, I feel so is each pregnancy.
Let’s talk about transitions for adults. As adults, I feel we often overlook ‘transitional moments’ thinking perhaps that we outgrew that phrase with the sunset on our childhood. However, if you think about it, adulthood lasts for the overwhelming percentage of the lifetime of the average American, so it stands to reason that we encounter as many, if not more, transitional moments in adulthood. Need examples? Happy to….
School has started. The hallways are full, the parking line is endless, and homework time just got real again. Most parents have gone into a school at some point and seen the child crying because someone wouldn’t play with her or the child laid out in the hallway because he did not want to go back to class after art, recess, or lunch. But what if you ARE that child or the TEACHER (or parent) of that child? How do you help? What do you do when throwing the child over your shoulder or dragging them by the feet isn’t really best practice?
Hi everyone! I'm Michelle Ainsworth, therapist here at Wellspring Renewal Center. I really can't believe it’s already August and school is starting back. With school and our kids in mind, I thought I would spend a little time today talking about the mental health of our children. School can be a wonderful place for children to make friends, express themselves, expand their minds, etc… but all too often school can also be a source of anxiety and/or depression due to difficulties they may experience with academics or socially.