January 2: The gym is so crowded you need to stand in line for half an hour or more to use your cardio machine of choice, or heck, any cardio machine. January 5: You head to the grocery store and it is as if no fruits, vegetables, or protein supplements were ever stocked on their shelves. Fast forward to February 15: The gym has returned to the usual suspects and you can finally buy bananas again!
Due to new books and films like Boy Erased (written by Arkansas native Garrard Conley) and The Miseducation of Cameron Post, there has been a recent increase in the discussion around LGBTQ conversion therapy. Conversion therapy essentially tries to “de-gay” a person by changing their sexual orientation. In the past this has included “ex-gay” camps, electroconvulsive therapy, and administering shocks when aroused among other extreme measures. Today, most conversion therapy uses behavioral techniques much like cognitive behavioral therapy to attempt to change behavior or deny the expression of sexual feelings. In other words, it can look like regular therapy.
In my previous post on anger I talked about how anger is just one of many emotions, and that it is actually healthy to be able to express, process and reflect on all of your emotions, including anger. With that said, here are five tips to help you manage your anger in a healthier way.
1. Remind yourself that anger is normal and is usually alerting us to something that is off. We have a tendency to classify emotions as “good” and “bad” but all emotions are normal and healthy. After all, you cannot really control how you feel, right? You can, however, control how you want to respond to emotions. It may be more helpful to classify anger as an “unpleasant” emotion and when you feel anger you can decide how you want to respond to this feeling. Anger often tells us that something is not right. We may feel hurt or taken advantage of or perhaps an injustice has been done. Anger is a signal that something is not right. Listen to this and try to respond in a healthy manner.
I’d like to talk about transitions a little bit. Some major life transitions that readily come to mind for most adults might be: starting a new job, entering a new relationship, getting married/engaged, getting pregnant, becoming a parent, or moving to a new city, house, state, etc.